Relationships fall out because of a lack of commitment from either party. How to commit?

Use Github. 🙂

You need to truly want to commit. That’s how you make your decision and keep your promise. And to own/value your word/promise.

No excuses. Be honest with yourself first, before everyone else.

Cliché? Yes, pretty much.

Being honest with yourself may seem to be not always there, e.g. when you have bad habits that ruin your health, or when you make excuses for yourself and others, etc.

It’s known, changing own habits is the hardest part of life.

By the way, I’m not perfect either. I suck every now and then and I know where and how.

The important thing here is to recognize that moment when you do something that’s not in line with your values and/or your team’s values. Once you did recognize that sucker, you can change your behavior.

There’s one thing that I value, both naturally and paradoxically, more than myself – the team, as long as we share similar values. I’m ESFJ-A. Hello Myers-Briggs!

I’m interested more in everything around forming effective teams and making things happen. Therefore, my focus of this post is on teams.

I believe a team starts with a team of one – yourself – the leader.

– “𝗜𝘀 𝗶𝘁 𝗰𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗻 𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗵𝗼𝗺𝗲?” – 𝗮𝘀𝗸𝗲𝗱 𝗺𝗲 𝗖𝗵𝗲𝗳 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗼𝘄𝗻𝗲𝗿 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗮𝘂𝗿𝗮𝗻𝘁.

– “𝗬𝗲𝘀…”, – 𝗮𝗻𝘀𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝗜 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗶𝗱𝗹𝘆 🤔 𝗼𝗯𝘀𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗵𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗿𝗲𝗱𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗱𝗶𝗿𝘁𝘆 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗹𝗲𝗳𝘁𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝘄𝗮𝘁𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗼𝘂𝘁𝘀𝗶𝗱𝗲 𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝘂𝗻𝗶𝗺𝗮𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗿𝗻𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗿𝗼𝗼𝗺. 😱

– “𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗿𝗼𝗼𝗺 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗼𝗳𝗳𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗻𝗲𝘅𝘁 𝟭𝟬 𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀!” – 𝘀𝗮𝗶𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗖𝗵𝗲𝗳.

That was a rather short but mindset-changing dialog between me and the owner of the restaurant where I applied for a temp job.

I made several serious mistakes in previous years. As a result, when I became 40, I faced near bankruptcy both financially and emotionally.

Back then I dropped my tech geek’s crown 👑 and found a simple job to pay for the very foundation of my Maslow’s pyramid of needs, rent. …And my Scrum training.

When the Chef disappeared behind the door I said to myself that the dishwashing room I was in would be my business for the next 3 months. 🏢

The responsibilities that I acquired with that “business” I declared as my business services 🍽️🧽🧹 to provide – à la B2B.

Everyone else working at the restaurant became my customers. 🤝

𝘛𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘶𝘦𝘥…